To have someone you love or someone who loves you

Would you rather have someone you love or someone who loves you?

I heard this question asked many many times before, and in my life I had also asked myself this question maybe a thousand times. But until now, I still cannot seem to have the specific answer. Maybe because the answer to this question is rather situational. When i will advise a friend and I was given this question, I would tell him or her to have the person who loves them rather than stay with the person whom they love. Because as a friend I know that when they chose the person who loves them, they won't get hurt, although they might not be as happy, i believe that love can be learned and developed in due time. At least i am at ease that the person who loves them will never do anything to hurt them intentionally. Unlike when they choose the person whom they love but doesn't love them, they will be hurt emotionally, and it was mentally exhausting also. But when this question will be asked for my personal life, I will 100% choose to stay with the person I love even if he cannot love me back. Some might say it was martyrdom, but that's love. For me, love is unconditional, you love without expecting any in return, without any conditions attached. At first I thought I would be able to do that easily, but i realized that it was really hard. It's hard to see the person you love with someone else. It's much harder to see that the person you love, love someone else who doesn't love him in return. I guess, it would have been much easier, if I can see that the person I love, although cannot love me back was happy with the person he love. But that's life i guess, each one of us will eventually find someone who will be the right person for us, at the right time. Meanwhile, we will love and get hurt, but love again despite the hurt, and the process will go on and on, until the right time comes and we meet the right person for us.